NEW CHURCH OF ST. VINCENT PALLOTTI IN ESSO

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St. Vincent Pallotti Parish, Esso, Arusha, Tanzania.

_DSC0199Friday January 22nd, the feast day of St. Vincent Pallotti, was a very special day for the parish community at Esso and for the Pallottines in East Africa. That day marked a culmination of a vision and years of hard work, effort and collaboration of countless persons in the parish of St. Vincent Pallotti. At 4pm the auxiliary Bishop of the Archdiocese of Arusha, Monsignor Prosper Lyimo, placed the relic of St. Vincent Pallotti into the newly constructed main altar and sealed it, this ceremony took place as part of a ceremony of sung Evening Prayer which was attended by those of the parish community who could be present and the Pallottines and the Sisters of the Congregation Daughters of the Sacred Heart.

The following morning, Saturday January 23rd , dawned bright and sunny and the parish community came out in strength to participate in the solemn consecration of the parish church and its official opening. Monsignor Lyimo was due to officiate at this event but had succumbed to a bad dose of laryngitis and the Archbishop of Arusha, Monsignor Josaphat Lebulu, came in his stead. The parish community attended in their thousands, all brightly decked out in white and yellow tee-shirts specially commissioned for the occasion. The ceremony was reverent, joyful and celebratory as befitted an 11 year history in the parish. It was a celebration of the vibrancy of the faith of the Catholics in Esso, a celebration of the commitment of the Pallottines who served there and facilitated the development, it was also a celebration of the many volunteers and contributors who in one way or another took part in the building up of this impressive community life and faith centre.  The procession  halted at the door of the church, Archbishop Lebulu  blessed the doors and the pillars, the ribbon was cut and the door formally opened.  He then anointed the altar with oil, blessed the baptismal font, blessed the church walls and the congregation gathered for the event. Suffice it to say that the ceremony started at 10am and concluded at 2.15pm; the four hour Eucharistic celebration was filled with song, dance, prayer, readings and reflections.

_DSC0057The Pallottines were first invited to minister to the Catholics in this disadvantaged area of the city of Arusha in 2004. Fr. Noel O’Connor was the first Pallottine to work here, he was joined by Fr. Michael O’Sullivan and while Noel was also Novice Master the novitiate was also held here, Frs. Paul Makita, Boniface Muro and Martin Mtai were novices then, along with Paul O’Callaghan from Dublin. Fr. Andrew Kayhumbya joined Fr. Michael and they worked together for a number of years. Fr. Reginald Kimathi is the current parish priest and his assistant is the recently ordained Fr. Simon Sserufambi .

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HOMILY OF BISHOP FREEMAN FOR THE ORDINATION OF DEACONS BRENDAN AND JAIMIE

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1279103259450Good afternoon everybody.

With the greatest of joy and affection, I greet each and every one of you, as we gather together united in prayer, as members of God’s family, to celebrate the Rite of Ordination to the Deaconate, of Brendan McCarrick and Jamie Twohig.  I welcome Brendan and Jamie, I welcome you, their families and friends, and I welcome members of my Pallottine Family, who will concelebrate the Eucharist here this afternoon. It is a very special day for Brendan and Jamie, for their family and friends and a significant day for the Pallottine community.  I am delighted to join with you today.  It is indeed a privilege for me to be asked as Bishop of Ossory, to ordain these two men to the order of Deacon for the Pallottine Community.     

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Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

These men who come before us, Brendan and Jaimie, are now to be raised to the order of deacons.   Consider carefully the ministry to which they are to be promoted.

Brendan and Jamie will draw new strength from the gift of the Holy Spirit.    They will help the bishop and his body of priests as ministers of the Word, of the Altar, and of Charity.  They will make themselves servants of all.    As ministers of the altar, Brendan and Jaimie will proclaim the Gospel, prepare the sacrifice, and give the Lord’s body and blood to the community of believers.

It will also be their duty, at the bishop’s discretion, to bring God’s word to believer and unbeliever alike, to preside over public prayer, to baptise, to assist at marriages and bless them, to give viaticum to the dying, and to lead the rites of burial.  Once they are consecrated by the laying on of hands that comes to us from the apostles and is bound more closely to the altar, they will perform works of charity in the name of the bishop or their superior. From the way they go about these duties, may you recognise them as disciples of Jesus, who came to serve, not to be served.

Priests and Deacons are called to serve the people of God, not to be served. Every gift and blessing that God bestows on us is not just for ourselves – it is for others – it is for sharing with others. And when we share these gifts, blessings and talents, then our own lives become ever more enriched. Brendan and Jamie, if you live your lives in a spirit of mercy and compassion, you will do as the good Lord asks of us as priests, and that is, you will serve the people of God entrusted to your care with a profound sense of mercy and compassion. Do bear in mind that not only in the writings of Pope Francis do we find the importance of Mercy and Compassion but also in page after page in the writings of our founder, St. Vincent Pallotti. 

Announcing the Great Jubilee Year of Mercy, the Holy Father, Pope Francis said: “I have often thought of how the Church may render more clear her mission to be a witness to mercy; and we have to make this journey.      It is a journey which begins with spiritual conversion. Therefore, I have decided to announce an Extraordinary Jubilee which has at its centre the MERCY OF GOD. It will be a HOLY YEAR OF MERCY. We want to live in the light of the word of the Lord: “Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful” (cf. Lk 6:36).

As we embrace this Jubilee Year of Mercy, let each one of us be a light of shining hope for the other and by being that light of shining hope, we will do as the Holy Fathers asks of us, and that is, we will live in the light of the Word of the Lord.   “‘Let light shine out of darkness’, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” (2. Cor. 4.6).  

Some may ask what does it mean to be merciful like the Father?   We must imitate the life of Jesus – to live like Jesus who lay down his life for his friends and his enemies.  Jesus is asking us to touch human misery –  to touch the suffering flesh of the  other.  Whenever we do so, our lives become wonderfully complicated and often difficult, however, we experience intensely, what it is to be a part of a people.             

Mercy comes from two Latin words MISEREOR which means to suffer and CORDIS which means heart, a suffering heart or a broken heart, the CROSS. To suffer as Jesus suffered on the cross. When the Holy Father asks us to “be merciful like the Father” he is not asking us to suffer, but what is asked of us, is that we make ourselves available to one another in times of suffering.  When we show mercy and compassion to one another we help alleviate the sufferings of others and we develop a sensitivity of going out to others and helping them overcome their suffering. 

To live in a spiritual life is to become missionary – to come out to meet others, and when we do, we learn something new about one another and about God.  Whenever our eyes are opened to acknowledge the other, we grow in the light of faith and knowledge of God.     

We do not live any greater a life when we flee or hide or stop giving and lock ourselves up in our own comforts, when we become individualistic, as such a life is nothing less than selfish.   

Being a missionary is not a part time activity but requires surrender to a new kind of existence – a soul filled other centeredness. Our mission of being in the heart of the people is not just a part of our lives or a badge we can take of – it is not an extra or just another moment in life – it is something we cannot up root from our being without destroying ourselves.  

Each one of us has a mission on this earth. That is the reason why we are here in this world. To quote Mark Twain:  “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

We have to regard ourselves as sealed – even branded by this mission, of bringing light, blessing, hope, healing, and love, to the other.  All around us we will begin to see others with soul – people who have chosen to be WITH others and FOR others.   

When we speak of each of us living a mission in life – each one of us being unique, I am mindful of the writings of Cardinal John Henry Newman:

“God created me to do Him some definite service. 
He has committed some work to me, 
which He has not committed to another. 
I HAVE A MISSION, 
I am a link in a chain, 
a bond of connection between persons.

Therefore I will trust Him. 
Whatever I am, I can never be thrown away. 
If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him; 
if I am perplexed, my perplexity may serve Him; 
if I am in joy, my joy may serve Him; 
if I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve him. 
He does nothing in vain.  He knows what He is about.

Brendan and Jamie, you are being raised to the order of deacons. The Lord has set an example for you to follow.  As deacons you will serve Jesus Christ, who was known among his disciples as the one who served others.  Do the will of God generously.  Serve God and humankind in love and joy.  Look upon all unchastity and avarice as worship of false gods; for no one can serve two masters.

Like the men the apostles chose for works of charity, you should be men of good reputation, filled with wisdom and the Holy Spirit. Show before God and humankind that you are above every suspicion of blame, a true minister of Christ and of God’s mysteries, a man firmly rooted in faith. Never turn away from the hope which the Gospel offers; now you must not only listen to God’s word but also preach it. Hold the mystery of faith with a clear conscience. Express in action what you proclaim by word of mouth. Then the people of Christ, brought to life by the Spirit, will be an offering God accepts. Finally, on the last day, when you go to meet the Lord, you will hear him say: “Well done, good and faithful servant, enter into the joy of your Lord.”

By your own free choice you seek to enter the order of deacons. You shall exercise this ministry in the celibate state for celibacy is both a sign and a motive of pastoral charity, and a special source of spiritual fruitfulness in the world. By living in this state with total dedication, moved by a sincere love for Christ the Lord, you are consecrated to him in a new and special way. By this consecration you will adhere more easily to Christ with an undivided heart; you will be more freely at the service of God and humankind, and you will be freer in the ministry of Christian conversion and rebirth. By your life and character you will give witness to your brothers and sisters in faith that God must be loved above all else, and that it is he whom you serve in others.

Brendan and Jamie, these are the thoughts that I share with you on this happy day in your lives. I hope you can develop these thoughts as you begin your ministry as Deacons in the Pallottine family while all the time developing and sharing every gift and blessing that God has bestowed on you.

With every blessing of the good Lord.

God bless you always.

+ Séamus Freeman, SAC.

   Bishop of Ossory.

   16th January 2016

Two Pallottine students ordained as deacons

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Diaconate16The two new deacons have highlighted how both Youth 2000 and Medjugorje played a part in their vocation stories.

Brendan McCarrick recalled first contemplating his future direction as he prepared for his mock Junior Cert in February 1993 when he first encountered the words of poet Robert Frost, words which he said “have remained with me, and words which I have returned to on many occasion as I have forged my way through life.”

“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller.”

He later went to college and studied engineering but applied at 20 to study for the priesthood. For three years he struggled with his studies in the seminary before realising that he was in the wrong place.“I was lonely and alone in a seminary, in a class of over twenty lads, and over one hundred and seventy lads studying for diocesan priesthood.”

Bishop Seamus Freeman sac and Rev Rev Brendan McCarrick sac with his parents.

A life changing event happened in 2008, when Brendan travelled to Australia for World Youth Day, where his faith was reinvigorated.

“It was there I decided, during my time in prayer that God was still calling me to priesthood, the only decision was where? A return to diocesan priesthood or community/religious life?”

Throughout that year he discerned and prayed for guidance as to which road should he travel.

While attending a Youth 2000 event, he met the vocations director of the Pallottines, and he invited Brendan to a weekend retreat in Thurles, where he could learn more about the Pallottines, St Vincent Pallotti the founder of the Society and about where God was guiding him in my life.

“During that weekend I felt welcomed and at home, and knew God was calling me to ‘give, offer and surrender my whole life to God.’”

On 11 August 2009, while in Medjugorje on his annual retreat, Brendan received a phone call from the provincial of the Pallottines, congratulating him that his application to become a member had been accepted.

“Three years later I took my first promises to the Society, ‘to give, offer and surrender my whole life to God’, and this I do each day by trusting in God, surrendering to his will, and by believing in God, that he is guiding and directing me each day, so that I will receive that strength and courage to follow the road less travelled.”

The other new deacon, Jaimie Twohig went to Medjugorje in 2005 where he had “a very powerful experience one night at a prayer meeting”.

Bishop Seamus Freeman sac and Rev Jaimie Twohig sac and family.

“It is very hard to put it in to words but to put it simply I knew that God loved me completely. I can’t describe the peace and the joy I felt. The feeling of emptiness inside of me was gone. This experience changed my life forever.”

This consolation came at just the right time because a period of extreme trial and suffering was about to begin when his father passed away in 2007.

“The sadness that comes with someone so close passing away is very hard. He was not just my Dad but also my close friend.”

This time of trial brought him closer to his mother and deepened his prayer life. “As a result I began to feel the call to priesthood.”

At this point he had also joined Youth 2000 and this deepened his love for Jesus and Our Lady.

“I also came in contact with other young people of the same age who had the same faith that I did. This really opened my eyes; it was such a relief to see other young people on the same walk with God.”

“What really touched my heart about Youth 2000 was the witness of the priests. They were so alive and joyful and so in love with Jesus. I wanted to be like them, to live a life for God.”

He finally decided to do something about the call he was feeling in my heart in late 2008. “I didn’t feel called to diocesan priesthood so I knew that a community life was the way to go.”

In early 2009, he was invited to a Pallottine vocations weekend by Fr Emmet O’Hara. “This weekend left a deep impression on me. I had been to the Pallottines in Thurles many times before but this time I felt great peace and it felt like home.”

“After this weekend was over I knew the Lord wanted me to apply to the Pallottines.”

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OCTAVE OF THE EPIPHANY

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Pallottine Prayer For the Vigil Of Epiphany
 
Lord, our God, we praise you for sending us your Son as Saviour of the world. We adore you because you manifested his glory to all peoples and nations. Fill your Church here on earth with the spirit of faith and adoration. Strengthen our conviction that even today you are close to your people in your Son, and reign as Lord over all.
 
All the kings of the earth will adore him. Alleluia!  All the peoples will serve him. Alleluia!
 
Father of light, unchanging God, today you revealed your Word made Flesh to the nations by the guidance of a star. Your light is strong, your love is near; draw us beyond the limits which this world imposes, to the life where your Spirit makes all life complete. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen
 
 

Epiphany – “the first manifestation our Lord Jesus Christ made of himself to the Gentiles, the first proclamation of the Catholic faith”

(St. Vincent Pallotti)

 

Threshold Of Hope: New Year 2016

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Feast of Mary Mother of God & World Day of Peace

open door 3We come to the threshold of a new year, to a crossing in which we are carried by Christ; carried within Him in the mystery of Word and Eucharist. For the Christian it is always a threshold of hope.

We come to it – together or alone – in the company of Mary, Mother of God, Mother of Peace and, with her we pause to glance back at the year that is ending, we pause to ponder and to treasure in our hearts all that has been. There are experiences of great personal pain, of death and births that did not happen. There are babies who were born, dreams that were fulfilled, challenges met and obstacles overcome. We ponder in order to recognize the presence of God in all that we have been given to experience and this recognition of God’s presence in the past gives us hope for the future that is unfolding.

This is a contemplative, reflective moment that is necessary in every human life so that we are not endlessly rushing from one experience to another without learning the lessons and the wisdom offered by God in every single thing.

Looking back and moving forward we need to decide what to take with us and what to leave behind so that we don’t spend our lives hauling excess baggage, being unnecessarily burdened. The invitation of God in the Bible is to “unload all your worries on to Him because He is looking after you.” We need not carry more than is necessary.

We cross the threshold with Mary, abiding in Christ with the prayer of the Spirit of Jesus – “Abba Father” – rising in our hearts and the Eucharist as food for the journey.

I have had a great year. Being 60 years of age is a wonderful experience and I have learned the importance of the dreams that God has placed in our hearts. Dreams that I have held in my heart since childhood.

There is one dream that I decided to fulfil during the year – to travel for a week on a cargo ship – and it almost came true but didn’t in the end. But two other dreams did come true through no effort of my own.

The first was getting to spend a few days in a lighthouse, a gift given me by my family who were attentive to my dreams. The second is that I got to become a presenter on radio, Radio Maria. I didn’t seek it out. It was given. And this teaches me that I may propose to do something that is good and God given but God may choose otherwise, choosing instead to surprise me. And so I look back on these surprises and move forward in expectancy of surprises to come.

60At home after Christmas I got to spend a day alone with my two youngest nieces – Katie and Laura – aged 7 and 5. I had decided not to buy them presents because they are overwhelmed with too many things. My intention was to offer them an experience – the experience of our presence with each other. Part of the plan was to bring them to a movie that they wanted to see.

I can’t remember which of the storms was raging in Galway on that particular day but it was horrendously wet and we couldn’t get parking anywhere. Everyone seemed to be out in town that day and when I said to the girls that we might not get to the movie, they said “we can just go to  your house.” And I loved their adaptability. They were content not to get what was promised, content with whatever we might do together.

We went to Bonkers, an indoor play area for a couple of hours, followed by a Supermacs takeaway which we ate at home in the sitting room at my house and when it came to time for going home they were reluctant to leave. During the drive back home the three of us sang Christmas carols and there was such purity and sincerity in their singing that I felt I had reached the summit of Christmas.

This is something I carry across the threshold into 2016, the song of a child in my heart, song of gladness and praise. Singing is also part of the prayer of the Spirit in all our hearts, the prayer that has power in it to shift the darkness in which we will inevitably find ourselves from time to time.

And we carry blessing, the blessing given by God to Mosses and Aaron in Numbers chapter 6 – “May the Lord bless you and keep you. May the Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you. May the Lord uncover His face to you, and give you peace.”

I like this idea of the Lord uncovering His Face, revealing himself to us in the journey that lies ahead. It is for us, in moving forward, to keep the eyes of our soul focused on the light that shines from God’s face, a light that no darkness can overcome. May it be done in the Spirit, in the people who bless our lives every day and in the circumstances that will unfold. May we see the face of God.

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Faraja Pallotti: A Place of Hope, Compassion, Encouragement – Clare Edwards

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It is almost 5 years since I first arrived in Tanzania, as a volunteer in the Esso area of Arusha at the foot of Mount Meru. 

When Fr Michael O’Sullivan sac was home in Ireland, on leave in Milltown, Co Kerry, he spoke about life in Esso where he was parish priest. A survey had indicated that there were many children and adults with disabilities and he asked if I would come to Tanzania to help them. I came initially for a month and the seeds of ‘Faraja’ were sown.

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We started therapy and support services in a classroom in August 2010 and a year later we moved into the new  Therapy  Centre [below]. I will never forget the joy and smiles on the Mamas faces as we entered the therapy room. They could not believe that the Centre was just for them and their children. ‘Faraja’ is a Kiswahili word which means ‘Hope, Compassion and Encouragement’ and Pallotti is the name given by Fr Michael to the complex in which the Centre is located.

We now cater for 200 children and 75 adults, and 30 to 40 attend on a weekly basis. Many of the children have severe cerebral palsy, and had been locked away in a dark room with no light, while the Mama worked to provide food for herself and her family. Life is difficult for Mamas and having someone with a disability makes it even harder as there is no State support and they would have to pay for any services, if available, which most of them could not afford anyway.

faraja2At Faraja Pallotti we provide free therapy services to all who come to our door. We give encouragement         and hope and try to show compassion over a cup of tea and ‘Vitumba’. After therapy, they share stories and give each other support.

The Centre could not operate without the wonderful staff – Salome the Occupational Therapist and Hidaya, the Therapy Assistant – who deliver quality service with care and compassion. We try to visit their homes when people are unable to come to the Centre. We also visit other Centres and  hospitals who have surgeons

from Germany and the USA who come once or twice a year and provide free surgery for those we refer to them. We only have to pay the hospital costs, then we do the rehabilitation after surgery at Faraja.

faraja3We are currently working with a business called Shanga which trains and employs people with disabilities to see if we can get some of our young adults to work in their workshop. This would provide some income for them and give them self-confidence and empowerment. Shanga manufactures products for tourists and also exports to many parts of the world.

During the last 5 years the greatest change I have seen is that the children and adults with disabilities are no longer confined or “hidden away” and that Faraja helps families to realise that they are not alone and isolated and that they can give valuable support to each other. Coming to the Centre dispels the myth that they are cursed, that it is their fault and that they deserve this cross to bear. We showed the film “My Left Foot” at our May Day celebration and the Mamas cried because they did not think Mzungos (white people) had handicapped children. They also saw that ‘white Mamas’ had to work hard just like themselves as they saw Brenda Fricker do in the film. It was an eye-opener for them.

faraja4At the end of our celebration Fr Reginald Kimathi sac, our parish priest, spoke with them and told them that every child is a blessing and to have courage and accept life as it is. He blessed them all and said to always remember that God loves each and every one of us just as we are. We have many Muslims who attend Faraja and it is wonderful to see them coming to the clinic and sharing their stories with us.

May the Holy Spirit of God fill our hearts with His love so that like the early christians we may bear witness to that love in our fractured and broken world. On behalf of the children and adults and their families who attend Faraja Pallotti we say “Asanteni Sana” for your generous support, and please keep us in your prayers.

Clare Edwards – Esso – TANZANIA   03.12 15                                                                                                 athsolas@gmail.com

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PRAYER FOR THE JUBILEE YEAR OF MERCY

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Lord Jesus Christ,
you have taught us to be merciful like the heavenly Father,
and have told us that whoever sees you sees Him.
Show us your face and we will be saved.
Your loving gaze freed Zacchaeus and Matthew from being enslaved by money;
the adulteress and Magdalene from seeking happiness only in created things;
made Peter weep after his betrayal,
and assured Paradise to the repentant thief.
Let us hear, as if addressed to each one of us, the words that you spoke to the Samaritan woman:
“If you knew the gift of God!”

You are the visible face of the invisible Father,
of the God who manifests his power above all by forgiveness and mercy:
let the Church be your visible face in the world, its Lord risen and glorified.
You willed that your ministers would also be clothed in weakness
in order that they may feel compassion for those in ignorance and error:
let everyone who approaches them feel sought after, loved, and forgiven by God.

Send your Spirit and consecrate every one of us with its anointing,
so that the Jubilee of Mercy may be a year of grace from the Lord,
and your Church, with renewed enthusiasm, may bring good news to the poor,
proclaim liberty to captives and the oppressed,
and restore sight to the blind.

We ask this of you, Lord Jesus, through the intercession of Mary, Mother of
Mercy; you who live and reign with the Father and the Holy Spirit for ever and
ever.

Amen.

Sr Regina King R.I.P. – Serving for 30 years in Corduff Parish, Dublin

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The death has occurred of Sr. Regina (Gertie) KING
Madonna House, Ferrybank, Waterford / Tipperary / Dublin

King, Sr. Regina (Gertie) R.S.H.M. Late of Huntstown, Dublin, Madonna House, Ferrybank and formerly of Drumquin, Silversprings, Co Tipperary November 21st (Peacefully) Predeceased by family who were of many, Sadly missed by her sisters Nora, Alice and Marjorie, brother Harry, sisters-in-law, brother-in-law, nieces, nephews, grandnieces, grandnephews, the Religious of the Sacred Heart Of Mary, relatives and friends.

Rest In Peace

Reposing in the Convent Chapel tomorrow, Monday evening, from 2.30pm until 4.30pm. Removal on Tuesday to the Sacred Heart Church, Ferrybank arriving for Requiem Mass at 12 noon followed by burial in the Community Cemetery.

”Ar dheis Dé go raibh a hanam dilis”

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In the Year of Consecrated Life – a special celebration of the work of three congregations: The Trinitarians, the Pallotines and the Religious of the Sacred Heart of Mary – present in the parish for over 30 years in the person of Sr Regina King – was held in Corduff parish.

We welcome today Sr Regina’s community, family members and friends as we publicly acknowledge her contribution to the life of this parish and community… Pope Francis has set aside this year to highlight Consecrated/Religious Life. Of course I will argue that we are ALL consecrated in Baptism but it is also important to recognise the diversity of Religious/Consecrated Life and today especially to publicly thank Regina for her dedication and service to this community, to the parish and to the Church. Pope John Paul 11 in his work on Vita Consecrata stressed the importance of ‘Being’ as opposed to ‘Doing’. Yet if one examines briefly some of the many, many things that Sr Regina has been involved in, and with, during her time here she may be aRegina1ccused of ignoring or disobeying the Pope. Resource Centre, development groups, childcare minding, community development projects, Brownies, the Jesus Hour, Senior Citizens, Art Group, sewing co-op, Rainbows, Anam Charadis, annual retreat to Wales, St Vincent de Paul, Parish Choir, Parish Pastoral Council – it is an exhausting list in itself.

But Sr Regina’s ‘Doing’ is part of who she is – it is part and parcel of her ‘Being’. She ENABLES others, EMPOWERS them. In that way she brings alive her Faith and her Congregation’s Motto: ‘that all may have life’ but Regina completes it with the next phrase ‘and have it to the full’.

We thank you today for your service, for your creativity, for your insightfulness, for your life of prayer. We thank you for what you ‘DO’ and will continue to ‘DO; but most importantly we thank you for ‘WHO YOU ARE’

Fr. Liam McClarey SAC PP, Corduff

Taken from RSHM Religious of the Sacred Heart of Mary

 

 

I HAVE OFTEN WANTED MY LIFE TO END: Reflection on a suicide -Eamonn Monson sac

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My soul is shut out from peace; I have forgotten happiness. And now I say, ‘My strength is gone, that hope which came from the Lord.’  This is what I shall tell my heart, and so recover hope: the favours of the Lord are not all past, his kindnesses are not exhausted; every morning they are renewed; great is his faithfulness. It is good to wait in silence for the Lord to save. (Lamentations 3 – First Reading)

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Only for God and good people there have been many days in my life when I couldn’t see how I would make it from morning through to day’s end. And only for God alone there have been long nights that I might not have survived. It strikes me now that those nights were possibly the most sacred because of their aloneness and togetherness – God and I alone, God and I together in a way that is not possible at any other time. There are still such days and nights but not as many. Not for such prolonged, drawn-out periods.

I’m thinking these thoughts because yesterday I celebrated the funeral Mass of a man who took his own life. Married with three children and a beautiful wife. They were inseparable.

I have often wanted my life to end. Seriously. But I never thought of taking it myself because I have a solid conviction that all life belongs to God and only He has the right to take it.

I have not contemplated committing suicide but I understand the dark forces that can drive a person to it.

The dead man’s mother has changed her mind about suicide. She used to think it was selfish but now she realizes that something in him must have snapped to make him do what he did. In his right mind he would not even dream of leaving his family behind, of hurting them in the way that they are hurt now.

Only a few days ago I was talking to someone about suicide and whether it’s a selfish act or not. We concluded that it’s not. Something too powerful must overwhelm the person who does it. 

Whatever the motive, whatever the unfathomable darkness that stirs within the man, there is no doubting the catastrophic effect on the family left behind. The questions that cannot be answered, the guilt, the anger, the disintegration, destruction – there are not enough words to say how awful it is. They will never fully recover, though we hope for some level of healing.

The life and death of each of us has its influence on others; if we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord, so that alive or dead we belong to the Lord. (Romans 14 – Second Reading)

As I stood at the entrance of the church yesterday waiting for the hearse to arrive, I could feel myself absorbing all the distress of this ordeal – the crowd filling the church to overflowing, the crowd outside in the torrential rain. I wonder what can I say to all these people to help make sense of it. So many young people here. I have words prepared but they escape and all I can feel is the fretful distress growing inside, filling every fibre of my being. Not just my own distress but that of all the people, not to mention what will arrive in the immediate family for whom we wait in the cold, wet silence.

Prayer brings me to that place within myself where I go in search of God only to discover that He is searching for me as He searched for Adam and Eve in Eden. He searches in the places where I hide – from Him and from myself. Sometimes the confusion, the disturbance, the inner distress comes from this fact of God searching for me, a searching in which He turns my inner space upside down so that He can uncover me. 

“When a man thus enters his interior house in search of God, he finds it all turned upside down, for God it is who is seeking him; and God acts like a man who throws one thing this side and another that side looking for what he has lost. This is what happens in the interior life whena man seeks God there, for there he finds God seeking him…” (Fr. John Tauler OP, 14th centuary)

This is where I find blessing in the deepest confusion of my life and I feel for anyone who cannot make this connection between God and one’s own deepest distress.

This is the spirit in which I celebrate the funeral Mass – in a great silence in which even the crying of the mourners is soundless. Wife, children, parents, sisters, brothers. Friends. All heart broken like the body of Jesus. And I remember my own cousin and his family.

I say to men especially – try to talk about what’s bothering you inside. Women have a natural way of unburdening themselves and maybe this is why 6 out of 7 suicides are men. I know at times that I can’t put words on what I’m feeling but it’s important to try for your own sake and for the sake of those who love you.

It’s important also to find things that give you a connection with the one who has died. At the offertory they bring two kinds of connections – physical and spiritual. The Man united jersey and football boots are physical connections. He has worn these, they have the touch and the smell of him in them. Touching them and smelling them for a while will help the grieving process.

The spiritual connection comes in the form of bread and wine that become the body and blood of Jesus in Holy Communion. When we are connected with Jesus we also have the strongest and most lasting connection with our loved ones who have died, the strongest and most lasting connection with life itself, the life that we are called to live right now. Part of the connection in the Eucharist is with Jesus’ own experience of desolation – the cry “my God, my God why have you forsaken me?” He utters that cry in us in our desolation and he also utters the cry of surrender “into your hands I commend my spirit.”

The cemetery is utterly miserable with rain and every other misery you could think of. It’s as if creation itself groans and cries in mourning. And tired, everyone seems so tired. His wife holding their baby who happily knows nothing of what is taking place. But he has a connection with his Dad, a lovely connection from the moment he was born and the nurse placed him under his Dad’s shirt for warmth. The picture of his little head sticking out under his father’s chin. Something in him will miss and ache for this connection but hopefully the power of the connection will sustain him as he grows up.

The mother of the deceased comes to thank me. She and her husband are battered and bruised by this experience, her husband looks broken. She has a strength that shines through, a thoughtfulness and a generosity in which she says to me “I will pray for you.”

At home I take off my muddied shoes and wet socks. Hot water eases the strain on my face. I know I will be rattled by this for a while but the family will live it constantly for a long time to come and  even forever. God help them.

Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God still and trust in me. There are many rooms in my Father’s house; if there were not I should have told you. I am going now to prepare a place for you, and after I have gone and prepared you a place, I shall return to take you with me; so that  where I am you may be too. (Gospel of John 14)

Fr. Eamonn Monson sac, Shankill

Rising Sun
Dawn breaks on Clare Island

Scripture readings quoted above were chosen by the family for the funeral Mass

Ordinations In East Africa – November 1, 2015

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On Sunday Nov 1st. at St Vincent Pallotti Parish, Esso, Arusha. Archbishop Josephat Lebulu will ordain Allan Bukenya SAC (pictured below on the left) and Simon Sserufambi SAC (pictured on the right) to the priesthood. Cyril Ingosi and Dedan Munyinyi will be ordained to the diaconate. Wishing them every blessing and happiness in their ministry. Ad multos annos!

 

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